June 27thUnforgiveness & Pride
3Take
heed to yourselves. If your brother sins against you">
3Take
heed to yourselves. If your brother sins against you, rebuke him; and if he
repents, forgive him. 4And if he sins against you seven times in a
day, and seven times in a day returns to you, saying, "I repent,' you shall
forgive him." Luke 17:3-4
14"For if you forgive men their
trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15But if you
do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your
trespasses. Matthew 6:14-15 "For
in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it
will be measured to you. Matthew 7:2 NASB
"Whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so
that your Father who is in heaven will also forgive you your transgressions.”
Mark 11:25 NASB “Be
kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ
also has forgiven you.” Ephesians 4:32 NASB
Unforgiveness is something that
can really hold us back from becoming the new person in Christ God has made us
to be. In fact, the above verses show that our unforgiveness toward others will
block God’s forgiveness of our sins. Additionally, when we harbor unforgiveness,
it can start a “root of bitterness” in our lives that can cause destruction in a
variety of ways (e.g. ruins the fruit of the Holy Spirit, stunts spiritual
growth, contributes to physical illness). Like an acid can destroy the vessel
that holds it, so can unforgiveness destroy us when we harbor it. The reason unforgiveness is so
serious is that it is a form of pride. God, the holy Creator of the universe,
humbled himself through Jesus and made the ultimate self-sacrifice to pay the
death penalty for our sin. If God, who is perfect, could forgive us, it is
arrogant for us (who are sinful) not to forgive others. By not forgiving them
we are basically judging them for their sin and trying to punish them. Since
only God is qualified to judge people, holding unforgiveness is like trying to
act in God’s place. People have committed many
horrible acts against each other since the time of Cain and Abel. When we’ve
been wronged by someone, we have a natural desire to see justice done. That
desire reflects our God-given nature. God instructs us to trust in him for the
execution of justice. The scripture says, “Beloved,
do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written,
‘Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,’ says the Lord” (Romans 12:19 NKJV).
He is judge and will carry out perfect justice in his time. As his followers,
we must submit our desire for justice to him and trust it in his hand.
This can be very hard to do,
especially if someone has spitefully mistreated us or someone we love.
Forgiving someone is not condoning what they have done, but rather, it is laying
the case before God’s throne and asking him to deal with it according to his
will. We have to remember that God saw the evil that was done. He knows how
deeply we’ve been hurt. If we can come to the place where we’re willing to
forgive the person through Christ’s power, we will be able to move forward and
leave unnecessary burden in his hands. Questions for further thought: Prayer: “Heavenly Father,
you are holy and righteous. You are perfect in justice. I confess that I have
not forgiven as you have commanded me to. Through Jesus Christ, I now forgive
these people: _________________ (list names and what they did to you). I
confess my pride and judgment of those people. Please forgive me Lord and
cleanse me from my sin. Please help me to thoroughly entrust these people and
the wrongs they caused me into your hands. I pray that your will be done in my
life and their lives. Please help me to think on these wrongs no longer, but
instead to focus my thoughts on you. Thank you, Father! In the name of Jesus
Christ I pray, Amen.” |